Low self-esteem and what you do
- You may avoid going out, or seeing people
- You may find it difficult to make decisions
- You might work too hard, or try to be perfect at everything you do
- You may hold back from doing things, or speaking out
- You may try to please everyone
- You may pass off any opportunities, for example, promotion, or holidays
- You may be over sensitive
- You may shout at others, or get into arguments.
- You may allow others to do things to you that you do not want them to
- You may avoid sex, or feel that you have to have sex
- You may eat too much, or for comfort
- You may watch what you eat very closely
The Vicious Circle
Low self esteem can mean we do things that make us feel even worse about ourselves. This creates a vicious circle.
If your boss has pointed out some mistakes you've made, you may take these comments to heart. In your head this criticism may mean that you can't do your job. If your self esteem was a bit low to start with, this comment would be another blow. What you think about yourself starts to affect what you do. What your then do confirms what you think about yourself. The vicious circle keeps going.
It can be difficult to break this vicious circle and feel better about yourself.
