Anger and thoughts
People deal with events that happen in their own way. You will get wound up by things that may not get to others. Your nature tends be a stable thing through your life. If you are hot headed now, it is likely that you always have been. Although it is often hard to change your nature, with time and effort you can learn to do this. However the way you think can be important in keeping anger going:
- How you view things What things mean to you can affect whether you get angry or not. If you care more about something it is more likely that you could become angry about it.
- Taking things to heart When some things happen you may think that people are trying to get at you, when perhaps they are not really. Maybe you jump to conclusions too quickly. Maybe you have not seen the bigger picture. Taking things to heart like this can make you more angry.
- Self-talk Self-talk means the things that you say to yourself inside. This plays a big part in whether you get angry or not.
"I'm going to tell him where he can stick it!"
"I'm not taking this any more - next time that guy gets it!"
"Why doesn't she just get off my back?"
This kind of self-talk will add fuel to the fire. It can make you more angry, and make your anger last longer.
